Positive Parenting of Teenagers

Building a good relationship with your teenager is the real essence of parenting. With rapid changes along the road of a journey in a teens’ life, parent’s role should positive, caring, disciplined and responsible.

Positive Parenting Teenagers

Parents need to realize the changes in teenager’s life; emotional, intellectual & spiritual. When parents give responsibility to their teens and let them make decision in life, it means you are giving enough space to them to develop productively while standing by them to help.


Parenting teens today is challenging as teenagers also face challenges physically, emotionally, and mentally. Positive parenting makes parents realize that although it is tough, yet effective, rewarding and enjoyable. It’s all about how you raise your teenagers with understanding, love and trust.


In the drudgery of daily routine, parents complain about time constraints so that they can spend with their teens. But remember your presence and time with your teen will help them gain trust and confidence in you and similarly helps to develop a good self esteem. So spare time; weekends are best to spend along with your teens and make that time fun, enjoyable and productive.


What ever parents show in terms of their actions, behaviors, emotions and by advices, it will directly pass onto your teens. In other words you are the first and foremost role models for them and your positive behavior/attitudes are followed.


Show your deep love and affection by valuing your teen; such as help them out in their studies tasks, problems they face. Allow them to learn from their mistakes but don’t scold or discourage them.


Effective parenting also involves disciplining the teens. Promote good behaviors, encourage teens on self-reliance, self-responsibility and self-control. Strengthen these by careful judgments not only from parenting perspective but also considering their abilities and capabilities.


Involve in the fun activities with your teenagers and be part of it and not just literally, by doing some of the stuffs that are of teen’s interests. Let them realize that you also value their interests and likings.

With a positive and healthy approach you can achieve positive results from your teens as you are firm, kind and loving in parenting your teens.

Strategies to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

Teen Pregnancy

Parents of teen girls are very cautious and in fact afraid of their teen girls getting pregnant. So parents must know how to prevent teen pregnancy and should keep their teens updated and informed of pregnancy and its related issues.

Building a strong relationship with your teen will help you out discussing the matter with ease and giving them directions. It’s better to talk to your teen on the topic of "sex early and often". Keep tracking the activities of your teen and don’t let them date with one who is 2 years older; discourage them on early dating and consistent dating. Watch carefully if your teen is not into watching porn, sexting etc.

The best strategy that works to prevent teen pregnancy is contraception and abstinence. The stats of teens getting pregnant are very high; 84 per 1000 girls (2001). This means that teens get involved in sexual activities more often and it is unrealistic to expect them to abstain from doing sex.

Mother is always a best guide for teen girl. Being a parent, your utmost duty is to tell them the values of love and what is best for them i.e., sex after marriage. But this does not applies totally in today’s world where teens have social circle of their own, influence of other friends, peer pressure and so on. The only and most effective option left for a mom of a teenage girl is to educate her about contraception.

There are various methods by which you can help your teen in preventing pregnancy.

• Discuss this issue one to one and tell her about the consequences of teens getting pregnant.

• Accompany your teen to your family physician so that the Dr can explain this matter comprehensively and with ease.

• You can also find family planning clinic in your local areas where you can take your teen for the correct information needed to prevent pregnancy.

Rules To Follow While Parenting Teenagers

It is obvious that parents loose temper and patience when they find themselves miserable dealing with stubborn teen or disrespectful teen, but remember you have to master the skill of Patience. You don’t need to be patient all of the time but don’t throw out your frustration on the teenagers. Parenting teens is a skill and to master the skill you have to learn the tools and some of the tricks of effective parenting. With passage of time you’ll be able to master the relationship with your teens.

So let’s take a look what do you need to learn:

Ineffective-Poor communication may sabotage your relationship with teens. You spend all of your day doing the activities like going to office, or even stay at home, socialize with others during that day, lots of things are there to talk and discuss your day to day happenings with the teens; don’t you expect the same from them, so it’s time to play your part as well. Communication should be in light manner and in a language they can understand easily; I don’t meant of the native language you speak but the tone, style that teenagers are most often used to.

Teenage years are the most active part of learning not only from the school/college but from the family. Have you ever thought how you train your teens? While you are busy with your life, you can spare time to teach them what you have done for them when they were toddlers and don’t even know how to tie shoe laces, if still teens haven’t learned how to do this try to teach them how to do that-look for the next time if they had followed your directions. Similarly you can teach lots of things in similar manner. 

Try to evaluate your teen’s abilities and capabilities and expect the same from them. Over expectation will lead you to frustration, being rude to them. So know your teen, encourage him/her on what they are able to do well. Don’t push boundaries. Teens should know their abilities and if you encourage and train your teen, the possibilities are great that your teen abilities will grow. 

While spending time with teenagers, your focus should be on teaching them the values with love and affection. Whichever topic you are trying to explain, make it interesting and listenable by quoting examples of teen’s favorite characters.